The Confident Brown Girl Starter Pack

A fun yet real guide with:

Affirmations
Go-to outfits
Comebacks for rude aunties
Role models to follow

Downloadable version too!

Being a Desi girl means you’re juggling culture, sass, expectations, and glow—all at once. One day you’re getting judged for wearing ripped jeans, the next day someone’s asking when you’re getting married.

This guide is here to be your pocket hype squad.

Whether you’re heading to a family gathering, a wedding, uni, or just scrolling Insta feeling meh, here’s your all-in-one survival kit.

✨ Affirmations for Every Mood:

For when your confidence dips:
🪷 “I am enough—even when I don’t feel like it.”

For facing family drama:
🔥 “My worth isn’t up for debate at dinner tables.”

For embracing your roots:
🌺 “I carry generations of strength—I am the revolution in bloom.”

For showing up fully:
💎 “I don’t have to shrink to make others comfortable.”

👗 Go-To Outfits That Say “Boss Beti Energy”

For a Shaadi Where Aunties Stare:

Flowy saree with sneakers.
Statement jhumkas.
Confidence in your eyes.

For Uni or Work Days:

Oversized blazer + wide-leg pants + Desi tote bag
Kajal and hoops because… balance.

For “Log Kya Kahenge” Visits:

Kurta, mom jeans, and a DGAF attitude.
Minimal makeup + a sharp liner wing = power move.

Reminder: It’s not about what you wear. It’s about how you wear it. 👑

💥 Comebacks for Rude Aunties (With Respect… Sort Of)

“Tum thodi healthy ho gayi ho, na?”
👉 “Just healthy enough to block nonsense!”

“When are you getting married?”
👉 “After I marry my purpose first.”

“Beta, that’s not ladylike.”
👉 “Good thing I’m not just a lady—I’m a whole era.”

“Back in our day, we never talked back.”
👉 “That’s why we’re breaking cycles now.”

(Use with a smile. Or not. Up to you. 😌)

🌟 Desi Role Models to Follow (For Real Inspiration)

Maitreyi Ramakrishnan – Gen Z icon breaking norms with humour and authenticity.
Alok Vaid-Menon – For unapologetic gender expression and power in softness.
Rupi Kaur – Poetic, powerful, and proudly brown.
Mehwish Hayat – Bold, vocal, and redefining what a Desi heroine looks like.
Avani Singh (fictional) – South Asian mental health advocate and visual artist breaking silence in digital spaces. (Create your own icons too. You count.)

📝 Confidence Worksheet: “What Does Confidence Look Like For Me?”

Use this worksheet to reflect on how you define confidence on your own terms—not your family’s, not society’s, but yours.

Prompt	Your Response
A moment I felt truly confident was…	(Write your memory here—how did you feel? What made you feel that way?)
Confidence, to me, means…	(No right answers. Define it in your own words.)
One belief about confidence I learned growing up that no longer serves me is…	(Be honest. What did culture, school, or family teach you that you’re letting go of?)
One way I want to express confidence this month is…	(Style, boundaries, speaking up—pick one thing and own it.)
A Desi woman I admire for her confidence is…	(She could be famous, someone in your family, or YOU.)
One affirmation I’ll say to myself every day is…	(Example: I deserve to take up space.)

Final Thoughts:

There’s no one way to be confident, especially in a culture that sometimes tells us to be everything but.
Your confidence is allowed to be soft one day and savage the next.

Whether you’re the first girl in your family to speak up—or the one healing in silence—
You are the blueprint. You are the Boss Beti.