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South Asian & Plus-Sized: Building Body Confidence in a Fatphobic Culture
Address the constant body commentary Desi girls face and how to find beauty and power in your own skin. If you’ve ever walked into a family function only to be greeted with “beta, you’ve gained weight na?” before anyone even says hello—you know exactly what this post is about. Being plus-sized in South Asian culture doesn’t just mean living in a bigger body. It means constant stares, passive-aggressive comments, and endless unsolicited advice disguised as “concern.” But here’s the truth: your body is not a problem to fix—it’s a home to honour. In a culture where thinness is praised and fatness is shamed, choosing to love yourself isn’t vanity. It’s…
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The Quiet Revolution: Self-Care for the South Asian Woman Who Was Never Taught How
Opening Reflection For many South Asian women, self-care has often been an afterthought, overshadowed by the demands of family, community, and tradition. Growing up, many were taught that their value lies in their ability to serve others—whether it’s in the kitchen, at the workplace, or within the family home. The idea of caring for oneself, of taking time to rest or recharge, was often seen as selfish or indulgent. But in the quiet corners of our lives, a revolution is happening. South Asian women, tired of sacrificing their mental health, are slowly but surely learning the importance of self-care—one small act at a time. This blog post explores how South…
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Self-Care Isn’t Selfish: Creating Space for Your Mental Wellness
South Asian Mental Health • Women of Color • Boundaries • Cultural Expectations • Emotional Burnout • Rest as Resistance 🧕🏽 “Take care of everyone else first.” In many South Asian homes, selflessness is a virtue — especially for women. We’re taught to nurture, serve, and sacrifice. But in this cycle of giving, many of us lose sight of the one person we were never taught to care for: ourselves. 💥 The Cost of Constant Giving Self-care is often misunderstood as indulgent or selfish — especially in cultures where burnout is a badge of honor. But the truth is: constantly pouring from an empty cup leads to deep emotional exhaustion,…
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“From Judgment to Joy: How Letting Go of Competition Made Me a Better Woman”
Anaira’s POV: Zayaan leaving was both a relief and a loss, but it was a loss I was ready to face. The years I had spent competing, fighting for his attention, and trying to mold myself into someone I wasn’t—those years felt like they had been wasted. But now, with Zayaan gone and Mahir moving in as our new tenant, I had room to breathe, to heal, and to finally let go of the toxic patterns we had been stuck in. Mahir, unlike his brother Zayaan, wasn’t here to judge us. He wasn’t here to drag us down or bring up the past to hurt us. He knew about everything—how…
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“Why Are We So Hard on Each Other? A Reflection on South Asian Female Competition and Self-Worth”
Have you ever caught yourself scrolling through social media, silently comparing yourself to another South Asian woman, and feeling the weight of it all? Maybe you saw someone with a seemingly perfect life, or a career you dream of, and thought, “Why can’t I get there?” That feeling of “not enough” hits hard. And if we’re honest, it’s a familiar feeling many of us carry in silence. We’ve all been there — competing, measuring up, constantly questioning our worth based on the lives of others. But where did this internalized competition even come from? The Unspoken Pressure of Competition It’s no secret that South Asian culture places immense value on…
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“From Comparison to Compassion: My Journey as a South Asian Woman Learning to Uplift, Not Tear Down”
Let’s have a real moment — have you ever caught yourself scrolling through another South Asian woman’s post and thinking, “Wow, she’s really got it all together… what am I even doing with my life?” Yeah, me too. There was a time I didn’t just compare — I measured my worth against other women’s wins. Whether it was academic success, flawless skin, career growth, or marriage milestones, I had this invisible scoreboard running in my mind. And without realizing it, I was tearing myself down… and silently tearing other women down with it. Where Comparison Begins For many of us, comparison doesn’t come out of nowhere. It starts young.From the…
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