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Reclaiming Rest: Why Hustle Culture Isn’t Always For Us
Opening Reflection: From the moment we are born, South Asian women are taught to be useful — to study hard, work harder, and never stop proving our worth. Rest, in this context, is often seen as laziness or indulgence. But what if the true rebellion isn’t pushing ourselves to the brink of burnout — it’s resting without guilt? The Cultural Coding of Work Ethic Many of us grew up in homes where our mothers never sat down. Rest was earned only after everyone else’s needs were met. The idea of “doing nothing” was a foreign concept, sometimes even shameful. We absorbed these messages early — that productivity equals value, and…
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“Climbing Ladders, Not Pulling Others Down: Redefining Professional Success as a South Asian Woman”
In the race to “make it,” South Asian women often find themselves in two roles: the one trying to climb the ladder — and the one secretly wondering if there’s only room for one at the top. We’re taught to be ambitious, but not too ambitious.To work hard, but not outshine.To lead, but only if we do it quietly. And somehow, through all the mixed messages, we’re subtly conditioned to compete with each other — not collaborate. But what if we flipped that script? Success Isn’t a Solo Sport Growing up, I saw professional success framed as a limited resource.One girl’s achievement meant another had to settle for second place.If…
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“Marriage, Marks, and Money: The Competitive Checklist Passed Down to South Asian Girls”
From the moment we’re old enough to understand language, a silent checklist starts to shape our lives.✔ Get good grades.✔ Land a respectable career.✔ Get married — preferably to a doctor, engineer, or someone with a foreign passport.✔ Have kids.✔ Keep the in-laws happy.✔ And for bonus points? Look flawless doing it all. Sound familiar? This invisible scorecard isn’t just tradition — it’s expectation dressed up as culture. And for many South Asian girls, it’s been passed down like an heirloom we never asked for. So let’s unpack it — piece by piece. The Gold Standard of “Good Girls” In our communities, success often comes in a very specific package.It’s…
Daughters of Strength, Bosses by Choice