• Desi Girl Struggles

    “Why Are We So Hard on Each Other? A Reflection on South Asian Female Competition and Self-Worth”

    Have you ever caught yourself scrolling through social media, silently comparing yourself to another South Asian woman, and feeling the weight of it all? Maybe you saw someone with a seemingly perfect life, or a career you dream of, and thought, “Why can’t I get there?” That feeling of “not enough” hits hard. And if we’re honest, it’s a familiar feeling many of us carry in silence. We’ve all been there — competing, measuring up, constantly questioning our worth based on the lives of others. But where did this internalized competition even come from? The Unspoken Pressure of Competition It’s no secret that South Asian culture places immense value on…

  • Desi Girl Struggles

    Am I Competing or Just Surviving? Navigating Hidden Rivalries Among South Asian Women

    Let’s be honest — have you ever walked into a room full of South Asian women and immediately felt this weird tension? Like there’s this silent, unspoken checklist ticking away…🌟 Who’s more successful?🌟 Who’s dressed better?🌟 Who’s living the ideal life? It’s exhausting. But here’s the deeper question: Are we truly competing with each other, or are we just trying to survive in a system that made us feel like there’s only room for one? The Hidden Pressure Cookers We Never Talk About From childhood, many of us were fed this subtle messaging: “Be the best. Look your best. Don’t fall behind.” Whether it was about grades, looks, marriage, or…