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“Am I Rooting for Her or Resenting Her?” – When Admiration Turns into Insecurity
Let’s talk about something tender.That blurred line between cheering another woman on… and secretly feeling unsettled when she’s doing well. You see her winning. Glowing. Thriving.You’re proud. You really are. But beneath the surface?There’s a tiny knot in your stomach.A quiet voice that whispers, “Why not me?” That’s the complicated space so many of us sit in.Especially as South Asian women — raised in cultures where admiration often comes with comparison as a side dish. We Want to Cheer… But We’re Taught to Compete The truth is, many of us were never taught how to genuinely support another woman without feeling threatened. If she gets the dream job, the engagement,…
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“Is It Confidence or Comparison?” – Dissecting Where Our Value Truly Comes From
There’s a fine line — sometimes invisible — between confidence and comparison. One lifts you up from within.The other needs someone else to be beneath you. And for so many South Asian women, we’ve been taught that “feeling good about yourself” often means being better than someone else — prettier, smarter, more successful, more desirable. But here’s the hard truth:If your self-worth relies on someone else’s lack, is it really confidence?Or is it just comparison wearing a prettier outfit? How We Learn to Measure Ourselves Against Others From childhood, we were quietly trained to link our value to someone else’s. “Look at how well she’s doing.”“Why can’t you be more…
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“The Jealousy We Don’t Talk About: How South Asian Women Can Heal Rivalry in Their Circles”
She got the promotion.She’s glowing in her engagement photos.Her Instagram looks like a highlight reel of your dream life. And there it is — that uncomfortable pang we’re taught to bury:jealousy. We don’t talk about it.Especially not as South Asian women.But maybe it’s time we do — so we can heal, together. Why Are We So Afraid to Admit It? Because we’re supposed to be nice.Supportive. Mature. Above it all. But let’s be real —When you’ve been raised to compete for validation, worth, and limited opportunities,jealousy becomes part of the emotional package.We just don’t acknowledge it. It’s Not Just About Her — It’s About What We Think We Lack That…
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